ACCESS NEWS
 Fall Edition 2003                            Vol.  XVIII   No. 1                          ISSUE 64
adoption reunion counseling Due to the wonderful response to the past five Caribbean healing weekend, we have made arrangements to offer another 7 day  vacation/healing weekend combination in glorious St. Thomas, US Virgin Islands. (For natural moms and adoptees only)

October 25 thru Nov 1, 2003    (5 spaces remain available as of 09/24) 

Healing Sessions will be from Saturday evening
thru Monday noon. 

Click here for information 
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/healing.shtml

I hope you will join us for a relaxing and most  healing experience! 

Joe:)
Adoption Healing... a path to recovery for mothers who lost children to adoption.  ($19.95 plus $5.55 S&H = $25.50)
 by Joe Soll & Karen Wilson Buterbaugh
"Injuries caused by separation of mother and child can, in time and with work, be dealt with effectively to the point where the loss will not interfere daily in our lives.  Instead, the pain might rear it's head a few times a year.  We may need to cry--get a hug and perhaps vent our anger--but the pain will pass more quickly each time.  Healing is a process, not an event."

"Adoption Healing is a testament to the terrible and long-lasting injustice that was done to so many women in our recent past, when 'authorities' snatched their babies and told these mothers that they would forget.  Buterbaugh and Soll have crafted a deeply caring book that reaches out to mothers who will never forget." - Rickie Solinger,  author of Wake Up Little Susie: Single Pregnancy and Race before Roe v. Wade, and Beggars and Choosers: How the Politics of Choice Shapes Adoption, Abortion, and Welfare in the U.S
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"Adoption Healing needs to carry a warning: 'Beware!  Read at your own risk.  Long-buried feelings are bound to surface.  Not advisable to read without  support.'   Adoption Healing is not for the fainthearted.  Some will say it's radical, and it is.   But it is the very radicalness that leads you to your own truth -- to the place of healing." - Carol Schaefer, author of The Other Mother and Mary Queen of Scots; playwright of The Sacred Virgin
 
"This 'must read' leads sleep-walking mothers through painful quagmires of suppressed memories into fully-lived lives.  It validates their trauma, loss and grief.  Therapists can help them understand the depth of their dysfunction post-adoption.  Loss of a child to adoption is horrific; readers learn that adoption isn't a viable ‘solution’ to an unplanned pregnancy.  A mother can learn to deal with her pain and reclaim her motherhood... this book teaches how she can be safely led home to herself." - Joss Shawyer, author of Death By Adoption

 “As an adoption reform activist, I found Adoption Healing to be the most straightforward and honest book I have ever read.  The authors presentation of the material explains the myths and facts of the exiled mother’s experience in a most clear and  concise  manner.  Adoption  Healing is one of  those  very  special  books  that is difficult to put down!” -   Sandy Musser, Adoption  Activist  and  Author of I Would  Have Searched Forever and To Prison With Love


Required Reading For All Mother to Be, April 4, 2006
Reviewer: Ronna 
This should be required/recommended reading for every single mother to be and every mother that has already gone through an incomparable loss through adoption-  Let this book be a shocking but eye opening educational instrument for mothers contemplating adoption for their infants or children before contracting with an adoption facilitator, agency or attorney.
There is no other book on the market that will wake you up to reality but also gives you tools to help survive-the tools that were withheld and most often won't receive today from traditional counseling. .

I bought this book not long after it came out and then loaned it to our adoption support groups inter-loan library, where adoptees also are reading this eye-opening account of the experiences of the mother's they lost through the adoption process. This book prepares and equips mothers and those lost through adoption for a healthy reunion experience based on the well researched truths.

Adoption Healing... a path to recovery for mothers who lost children to adoption is a unique book.  The reader is provided with a description of the immaculate deception imposed on pregnant women and the ensuing tragedy of the loss of their babies to adoption and the profound effects on their lives.  This is followed by different methods of healing the mother’s wounds, including inner child work, visualizations, healing affirmations, and anger management.  Every chapter includes a Myths and Realities of adoption section, a summary of the chapter and exercises to do on one’s own.

Reader Comments:
 
"Informative, compassionate and insightful..."
 
"Excellent, well researched book..."
 
"My daughter compared it to reading 'The Primal Wound,' for adoptees."
 
"To my sisters I say get this book because you deserve to be set free from what was done to you."
 
"A breakthrough with honesty, understanding and great compassion."
 
"Speaks to the issues that American society swept under the carpet."
 
"The most important aspects of this book is the validation, understanding and assistance it offers."
 
"It's past time for a book such as this... it's a true triumph for all."
Click below for more information
http://www.AdoptionHealing.com/Moms/

You might be interested in Adoption Healing for Adoptees, also written by Joe Soll
http://www.adoptionhealing.com/Adoptees/

If you purchase Adoption Healing for Adoptese at the same time,
there is a 20% discount on both books and no additional shipping cost in the US.
Cost for both books is $30.32 + $5.55  S&H.    Total $35.87

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